{"id":54839,"date":"2020-03-24T17:07:07","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T22:07:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tigermedianet.com\/?p=54839"},"modified":"2020-03-24T17:07:08","modified_gmt":"2020-03-24T22:07:08","slug":"%ef%bb%bfdear-world","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tigermedianet.com\/?p=54839","title":{"rendered":"\ufeffDear World:"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

N<\/em>Dear World,
These are challenging times. There is a lot of information about COVID-19 floating around out there, and it just adds to other stressors we have in our lives. We live in a time of instant access to world news whether it\u2019s via television or social media. When life feels like it\u2019s out of control, I would ask that we all remember the control<\/strong> that we do have during times like this.

I can control how much time I spend watching the news.<\/strong> We need to stay informed, but we don\u2019t need to continuously watch the television news or social media. Find other things to focus on as well.

I can control what I focus on each day.<\/strong> We can focus on negative things in life or we can focus on what is positive in life. I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard it before, but there is always something positive. Sometimes it becomes necessary to realize the things we take for granted each day. It\u2019s called \u201ccounting your blessings.\u201d I am a big believer that the little things in life are important. Take time to notice what we all have a tendency to take for granted.

I can control who I interact with each day.<\/strong> Socialization is important. We just need to be careful how we interact these days. Even if one is self-quarantining, we still need socialization. The amount of interaction differs for everyone. Just focus on what you need.

I need to be heard.<\/strong> This is so important. I tell my counseling students that people need to be heard and their feelings need to be validated. Let\u2019s all make it a point to really listen to others. We are all different and will have differing feelings about our world right now. Please just listen to understand each other without judgment. One of my biggest pet peeves is someone saying, \u201cYou shouldn\u2019t feel like that.\u201d The reality is that I do feel like that! I may want to change how I feel, and maybe would like your help to change, but please validate what I feel. It doesn\u2019t have to be difficult, it\u2019s just about listening and understanding.

I can remind myself of what has helped me in the past during a stressful time.<\/strong> I believe we all have a \u201ctoolbox\u201d that we fill during our lives. It contains those things we have discovered that help us during troubling times. The issue I have found is that we tend to forget what\u2019s in our toolbox when we are struggling. I encourage folks to write down what has worked for them and just look at it during difficult times. Something that might be useful is a \u201cstress first aid kit.\u201d I have a colleague, Maggie Denning, who I have made several stress management presentations with in the past. She said to me one day, \u201cWe have medical first aid kits, why don\u2019t we have stress first aid kits?\u201d What a great idea. It\u2019s something to go to in times of distress. I would encourage folks to put together their own kit. It does not have to be hard. Mine includes basic things to remind me of what is really important in life: family and friend pictures, little items that are important to my life (e.g. Special Olympics silver medal), etc. Whatever reminds you of happiness and peace can be included.

I can remember to take care of myself. <\/strong>We need to remember to just take care of ourselves. I believe we need to make this a priority. I often hear that this is selfish and putting ourselves first. I would argue that if we don\u2019t do that, we cannot continue to take care of those who need our assistance. Oh, we can for a while, but eventually if we aren\u2019t taking care of ourselves, we will fail in our attempt to take care of others. It\u2019s really OK to focus on yourself and what you need.

I can remember to just breathe.<\/strong> We typically don\u2019t breathe right. Take a deep breath in and slowly let it out. Deep breathing can calm us down, but usually we don\u2019t think about this simple act. Try it, and relax.

Be well.
<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Kenton Olliff is an associate professor of counseling at Fort Hays State University and a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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